Online Dating Tips For Girls

Online Dating tips for Filipino Girls: From attracting a foreign man’s attention to leading towards commitment. 

To win someone’s attention can be a little daunting for most Filipino girls sometimes, whether it’s online or face-to-face, especially for girls who are influenced in a cultural orientation of being conservative like some Filipino girls and Arab girls (I’m sure there are more!). Meeting romantic partners and establishing relationships can be a challenge for most girls all over the world.

In a traditional dating world, initiating takes place when you behave so as to appear please and likable to men. How about in an online dating world? How do you make a good impression to someone you find attractive online?

I started to go online dating when I was 19 years old, but the idea of online dating was brought to my attention at the age of 12 years old when my aunt corresponded with a few foreign men through exchanging letters by Post-Mail. I’ve experienced and learned many different things and online dating tips over the years which helped me find a good man. In fact, I did not just find a good man, but a great loving responsible good looking husband ~~ it’s the total package husband!!! Remember this tip when you are online dating,one of my aunts used to tell me before, “Don’t settle for less!”

So, here are some of my few online dating tips for filipino girls, filipino women, filipino ladies:

On this online dating tips, I’m going to follow some stages based on a relational development in a traditional dating world. This is the most popular stage model that was developed by Knapp, a very long time ago in 1978.

1st Stage of Relational Development: Initiating

Initiating is the most important stage to make an impression. So how do you make an impression online? How do you become likable?

In an online dating, to get noticed by people is to post a public profile visible to men members of a certain dating website. How do you post a profile that would attract other member's attention?

Don't just create your profile. But sell your profile! By clearly describing yourself such as your interests, the activities you enjoy doing, the kinds of values you possess, and the type of man you are looking forward to date. Just like us filipino girls, men want to spend time reading filipino girls profile's description. And the more you can express yourself through your profile; men will get an impression that you’re the type of filipina girl who knows what she wants in life.

Be confident in introducing how you look like.
Post variety of pictures that you have on different events such as pictures of a Street Dance Festival, Community Service, Playing Sports, or Beach Outing. Know that, it’s good to make an impression that you are an active woman who enjoys doing different things in life. Another online dating tips to have an attractive profile is by using high-in cameras or going to a photo studio (Dating tips: "Wear a light make up to enhance your beauty"). I used to post different kinds of Glamour-Shots on my profile when I was in search of a relationship and I tell you, I can get an average of 25 new messages per day.  

2nd Stage of Relational Development: Experimenting
This is a stage in a relational development on which individuals seek to learn about each other. When you find someone that you are really interested with, seize that opportunity asking questions to learn about him, like “What kind of values you are looking for from a Filipina girl?  Which place you would prefer to live at the beach or up in the woods?”

Be Talkative and Be Fun. Don’t be shy; throw interesting questions that come up in your 

mind. Most men don’t like being asked the same tedious questions day by day. We, girls, should beat the bushes to engage into a good communication, so men would keep coming back to have good talks. Say about anything under the sun, examples of good communication topics would be to talk about your plans for the weekend, the last movie you’ve watched, memorable childhood experience you have had, the kind of food you like cooking, and the activities you do with your family when you get home from work or school. The reason they call this stage experimenting is for you to test different kinds of communication topic that would cater the interest of two individuals. Another online dating tips:remember to be polite and friendly, as the famous saying goes, “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless”, by Mother Teresa.

With active participation in conversation with the man you like, it can lead into the third stage of relational development which is characterized by a gradual progression from friendship to romance.

3rd Stage of Relational Development: Intensifying

The stage when we call it the “feeling is mutual”, you find him attractive and he finds you attractive in return. On this stage you both seek to increase connectedness. Online dating tips on this stage, from my experience, my husband and I started being friends, in order to nurture our friendship to relationship we had to spare time for each other on a timely basis and when we reach this stage, we started to show that we care for each other and have enjoyed every second of our conversation. We laughed together as we speak on a cam-to-cam chat.

Then my husband decided to come over and see me in person. We had a great time together and decided to continue what we have when he got back home. The communication continued, the time that we both sacrifice just to have a good communication was the ultimate key to keep our relationship going.

4th Stage of Relational Development: Integrating

“I feel like you are a part of me!” “Thank you made me feel special!” –  these lovely phrases would naturally slide out of your tongue when you’re decided to portray yourself as a couple. In this stage you’ve got to stay strong for you are a step closer to commitment. In a long distance relationship this stage can be really tough. 

Another important online dating tips that you could share to your partner, “If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together. There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you.” 

From my experience, I had to stay strong and waited patiently until I got a visa to America!

5th Stage of Relational Development: Bonding

There’s a blessing for those who wait! 

I’m finally in America now as I wrote about this success in an online dating. In this stage we got married and that long wait has finally ended!

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